why i'm taking more risks this year

Tuesday, January 01, 2013
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happy new year! i hope whatever you did it was wonderful. 

What is a life without risks? We avoid risks in life, so we can make it safely to death. 
Lets not beat around the bush here, I know it's new year n'all, but facts are facts. We will all die one day. We will, it's true. We can't avoid that, sorry. So knowing full well that sadly deaths door is always around the corner whether it be soon or far in the distant future, why do we as a race live in fear of taking too many risks? To be honest, I got no idea fully, but this media over saturated world we live in can't help at all. Huge, powerful publications tell us about things we could die from, horrific attacks that happen in the world and deadly animals on a near on hourly basis let alone daily (mail). Gosh, it's no wonder we even leave the house!

Thing is, you can't fight the inevitable. You also, should let nature run it's course. I don't have a child, but when I do, I know about some things I need to teach it. Let's take getting a little cut as a prime example. So off we go, it's a lovely summers day, we're a lil bub toddler and we're super excited about playing on the gravely playground. It's not long before we've gotten over excited being a mermaid and slipped and grazed our knees. Oh god, we cry, oh how we cry. We cry for England. Why does it hurt so much? The unexpected pain of something we never knew existed, a part of our human body we never felt, emotions we're all too new to, overwhelm us and leave us scared, so scared. We bandage up the cut with a plaster, and the next day we are confronted with the playground again. We knew that yesterday the playground hurt us, but do we stop playing? Of course not. We enjoy playing, it makes us happy. My mum was forever cursing at me for coming home from school with a brand new hole in my brand new tights every single day from slipping and falling. I never let a cut or a graze stop me from playing mermaids on the playground.

Love, as Amy once so sadly sang, is a losing game. Relationships and heartbreak can tear a person apart. You can fall in love, then have your world fall down around you not too shortly after. That man you thought you loved? It can disappear in the flash of a pan. I've had some real downers with men lately. I don't talk about this a lot, but i'll open up, because being relate-able is only half the game isn't it? We know my past relationship failed because my ex cheated on me. (I know you know that, you forum dwellers!) It's okay, I brushed down and got back out there again. After all, he was just one in around 30 million men in the UK alone. I met a new boy, real sweet dude, played in a band. Definitely wore my heart on my sleeve, and probably due to the pain of my previous relationship, clung onto his own sleeve a little too hard, and pushed the free-spirited touring musician away. This is a hard form of heartbreak, because it makes you left feeling a bit silly. Well I did, anyway. But it's okay, that's just 2 out of 30 million. Brushed down, fresh dip dye, new thoughts. It wasn't long before I bonded with another guy, again, seriously lovely, few dates down and I really liked him. Loads in common, played it much cooler, less sleeve clinging, more you-come-to-me. He did, every single time. But then I found out he'd had a girlfriend the entire time. This form of crushing heartbreak is unexpected, and revokes some new and humiliating feeling emotions.

Instead of hurting at the pain and vowing never again to go through with it, i've been a firm believer in the fact there are better things on the other side. So, I take more risks. I go and meet new guys, I go and hang out in new bars, I add that cutie on Facebook - cause why the hell not? Worst case scenario, I get my heart a little hurt again. You know what though, it honestly can't hurt any more than a lot of my man related junk in twenty twelve did. My little lipgloss heart is big, real big, it's bandaged and stitched up, but it works, and i'll give it all to the right boy when i've found him. But finding him is a risk i'm incredibly willing to take for the pay off is far worth it for a hopeless romantic soul like me.

Why take a risk? Well, what's stopping you? Sit back and think what really is pushing you away from saying "yes" instead of "no". Is it fear of rejection or hurt? Is it the worry of humiliation? Do you think it can only devour your life instead of enriching it? Whatever your thoughts, place them rationally and realise that success in any field of life is only achievable through risk taking. The most successful and powerful people on this planet only got there through taking a huge gamble. It can, and will probably somewhere along the line go wrong. But that's fine, that's part of it. That is nature taking it's course. Things must go wrong to learn how to be put right. You simply cannot build perfection on a foundation of perfection, it must start as rubble and dust first.

You know, i'm a twenty three year old woman. But most days of my life I feel like a wide eyed five year old. There's still so much to learn, so much to experience, so much to see. I don't think i'd ever be where I am now or anywhere near the path to fulfillment in life without having taken any risks. A risk can often mean danger, but without danger there is no excitement. Take a risk until your heart races so hard you think it's going to burst out of your chest. Take a risk that hurts you so much you cry until you're physically sick. Take a risk that makes you shake with happiness. Take a risk on her, and take a risk on him. You'll never know what would have happened if you don't.

Twenty thirteen for me is the year of saying "yes" much, much more. And if i'm honest, I already say yes far, far too much. It's the year of being a little selfish to the point of risk taking for my own benefit, and it's the year of jumping from the rooftop just because I feel like it. I'm going to book that flight to New York i've wanted to book for the last five years of my life, i'm going to ask that boy out that i've been swooning over for weeks, i'm going to get that tattoo i've been meaning to get and i'm going to do with my blog and my career what ever the hell I want to - I will take that risk. I will go almost anywhere, to find where I belong.

About that tattoo? It's this lyric: But i'm willing to find out, what 'impossible' means.
Happy New Year - Love Zozo
x

33 comments:

  1. Wow, very inspirational! I like it..it´s hard taking risks, if you have nothing to fall back on, I think that´s what people are most afraid of. Then again, you´re right, what else is there to life for?

    http://jezzdallasmakeup.blogspot.com/

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  2. lovely post.. your title really snatched my attention to read it...... yes there is no adventure without risk in life... have more safe fun !!!

    H A P P Y N E W Y E A R

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  3. The Melting Point of Wax is an amazing song, ace tattoo choice! :) This post is amazing - it really sucks that you've had some (highly undeserved) rough times this year, but your strength going forward is really inspiring. I definitely believe that you need to experience the bad in life to appreciate the good, and I also want to take more risks this year! x

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  4. I loved this post so much! Really inspiring xx

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  5. Love love LOVE this post! I had a crappy 2012 too and plan to take many more risks in 2013 and enjoy everyday to make sure this time next year I am not writing a comment on a blog that says I had a crappy year!

    Again great post and good luck
    xxx

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  6. Love it thanks for writing really inspirational . . .
    2013 id going to be THE year the beginning of far more risks & adventures and many more YES years to come!!!
    Zinzi
    xoxo

    FSAugusta@blogspot.com

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  7. Such an inspiring post. I couldn't agree more with you, this is an attitude I definitely need to try and adopt this year. I can be too pessimistic and every new year I have the same thoughts, and like you said, risks are sometimes necessary and it's something I'm trying to realise. So thank you, all the best for 2013. I hope all of your risks pay off and you have an amazing year!

    xxxx

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  8. So inspirational! Seriously Zozo, I love posts like these - please keep making them!

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  9. you write really well, its so nice to see this type of post sometimes. nicely done, and thank you :) xx

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  10. <3 thanks Zoe. I want to make 2013 the year of saying 'yes' too, instead of making excuses cos I'm scared...

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  11. I am really enjoying your posts as of late and all I can say is this time last year I read a post from another blogger equally unlucky in love and she's now engaged!what I'm trying to say is you will find that man to keep that massive heart if yours warm .
    very excited for you to go to New York- I went two years ago and LOVED it and too planning to go back at the end of the year (if I fit in everything else I want this year)'
    I know 2013 is going to be your year !x

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  12. I actually adore these types of posts from you. Particularly you're writing style, but I think it's because you're honest and real. I'm not sure what it is exactly, but I love it. I wrote a couple of posts to wrap up the year and my 'goals' for this year on my blog sensible-reckless.blogspot.com
    I'm definitely going to start saying yes to a lot more, and stop wasting time!
    Jess

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  13. this post is amazing. Go get em ;)
    tie-dye-eyes

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  14. I know what you mean. last year.. I was with my boyfriend for over a year, and he dumped me.i was heartbroken, but ended up taking him back after 6 months, and two months ago he broke up with me again.. by completely ignoring me, declining my calls etc.I'm still completely in love with him, but I'm making 2013 the year I get over him.x

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  15. So inspiring! I decided not to keep any resolutions this year but I do plan to take risks :) Like you said, we'll die one die anyway so why not! :D

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  16. What an inspirational post! So true also! Xx

    gigglesandmakeup.blogspot.co.uk

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  17. This post is incredible! You are so so inspirational and motivational! I loved reading this :) xx

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  18. Absolutely beautiful, you've done it again! Truly inspiring :-)

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  19. wow great post zoe! I think say yes more is going on my resolutions list. Happy New Year xx

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  20. Wow, that was a beautiful post. It gave me a little shake up that I needed desperately. Thank you! xx

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  21. That photo is so pretty haha, love your lipstick too! I've had an unbelievably hard and shit 2012 and I'm not doing aww feel sorry for me, I just mean thanks for writing stuff like this cause it shows me the only person who can change my life is me. I loved this post, again youve inspired me! I need to say yes to the good things in my life and ignore the bad! Zoe have an amazing 2013 and post lots :)

    http://alittlebitunique.blogspot.co.uk/

    x

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  22. This is a really insightful and brilliantly written post, Zoe. Gives a huge confidence boost to those who have had a rocky 2012. Happy new year!

    Lauren @ www.materialmatchbox.com
    xx

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  23. I absolutely love this, and I'm feeling the same way about 2013! I really really need to say yes more! great post, and happy new year :)
    xx
    Rebecca @ trbcca.blogspot.com

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  24. I should really say yes so much more. I worry way too much about what people think and what might go wrong. Feel very inspired by this, happy new year zoe! Xx

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  25. Hey Zo! Just wanted to say this is a beautifully written post. Rebecca :)

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  26. Love it :) and the fact that ur a hopeless romantic is very honest of u to say and lovely to hear, keep learning and loving ♥ x

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  27. I loved this post. A while ago I decided (mainly off the back of the film Yes Man) that I needed to just get out there and say yes to opportunities that I usually would shy away from. Not everything led to wonderful results but one thing I need led to me meeting a guy who I never would have done otherwise. Although we aren't together anymore he was a really important part of my life for a long time and still a great friend. If I hadn't have taken the initial risk I may not be the person I am today. I still get scared but I try to remember to put myself out there and this post really inspired me to be braver this year. Thank you x

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  28. I can totally relate, another hopeless romantic here! I haven't had the best of luck with men lately either but I won't give up on the thought that one day things will work out with someone special! The right ones are out there somewhere and if it's something you really want it's worth a little risk...love/career/anything-wise! x

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  29. You are a inspiration hun this post made me re think about how I see myself and my life. thank you for that :)

    http://kemples.blogspot.co.uk/

    kemples xx

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  30. I've really enjoyed this post! So inspiring, you definitely gave me a little push here :) Thanks for being so honest and sharing these things with us x

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  31. I really loved this post, and I've bookmarked it for whenever I need a little inspiration. You seem so strong and brave in the face of everything that's happened, and it must take so much courage to keep taking risks! A lot of things have knocked me back this year but I hope I can go into this year as positive and brave as you, and hopefully take lots of risks. You're definitely an inspiration, thanks for writing this!

    Sophie
    www.anarrangementofnotes.wordpress.com

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